People take monumental comfort in what's familiar to them. Whatever you're accustomed to becomes your default mode. If you're used to feeling disappointed by people or treated badly, or that you're lonely, unattractive, not strong enough, too old or too broke, then this is exactly what you're going to get because you know how it feels. And though it may not be a desirable feeling or outcome, it's highly predictable to you. Letting go of what's familiar is like moving into a new country where you don't speak the language. You have to learn slowly how to engage in a new way, which involves a deeply frustrating kind of tedium. The new place isn't familiar; it doesn't feel predictable or comfortable. You have no idea how to connect. You see all the locals who seem to easily navigate the land and you feel that you'll never be at that level. It's too hard so you retreat back to your old mind set because at least there, you know exactly what you're going to get.
True change takes real guts and on the most part involves growing pains. Just like moving to another country you will eventually learn the language and embrace change from the inside out. But it’s a hell of a lot better than staying stagnant or stuck in the same loop. Ask anyone who makes the leap to transforming their lives and they will admit, it was worth the climb every step of the way.
Written and posted by Rachel G
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